What happens in meetings?
In our own words:
First meeting questions:
Do I have to talk?
Nope. You're welcome to be silent, in a meeting, or overall.
Usually there's an easy opportunity to let the host know you won't be sharing at the start (via voice or chat).
Sometimes even if you don't speak, meetings can still be very beneficial.
Do I have to show my face?
Nope. Especially in the first meeting, you might want to keep your video off initiall. But bear in mind that your fellow group members might not feel great having someone in there who isn't speaking OR talking. They might like to know that you're real and are there with a positivite spirit.
Will the other people be weird?
Only as weird as you 😬. JK. It's always a little daunting meeting new people. But out experience is that people who show up are happy they did. Most members find a group of people like them - at the level that really counts. As such, groups tend to form strong bonds very quickly. And the good news is, if the group isn't right for you.. it's easy to stop or find another that does.
How long are meetings?
We ask that you leave 90 minutes free for meetings & show up at the start. Groups can always decide to stop earlier. But it's nice to know at least that the group can stay together for that long, if the members need each other!
What is the structure in a meeting?
Groups vary a lot, but most meetings have at least this basic structure.
Check-in: There is a quick check-in, where everyone gets a chance to say how they are and how much they have to talk about.
Sharing time: In the middle, the most typical patterns is for each person to get the chance to share what's important to them. It could be a recent event, a challenge, or just a feeling. Most often, the other members can then offer support for that person, specific to what they've shared. But really this is just the way to kindle a good dynamic conversation.
Support is most often empathy focused, vs. about "solving" something, but it can be that too, if asked for.
Check-out: There's a check-out at the end, where you can talk about how the meeting went, and your plans/goals for the week.
Other Common Structures: Topic-based conversation, games and exercises, and guest experts, even group improv, are things you might encounter.
What do people talk about?
Most groups are topic-focused, and within that you the conversation can about whatever the group wants. Often folks like to share what's been going on with them, and get emotional feedback on that. Sharing your inner drama with people who understand is cathartic and good for you
What is this "support" you speak of?
We're talking about truly connecting to other people who are on your side. As humans, we're fundamentally social creatures. We need a few strong bonds with others to thrive. We need empathy. This is especially true when facing adversity (and who isn't? 😉). Read more about the benefits here.
What happens in the Chat app?
The chat app gives you access to the folks in your group, whenever and wherever you want. Really there are no given rules or structure. Common activities in the app include:
- Sharing & giving support as it's needed.
- Sharing fun stuff, in or out of the group topic.
- Sharing educational material.
- Planning & preparing the next group meeting.
- Working on exercises and challenges out in the real world.